I Do Again: How We Found a Second Chance at Our Marriage – and You Can Too

by: Cheryl & Jeff Scruggs

Published by: Waterbrook Press

Reviewed by Maria Elmvang

To all outward appearances Jeff and Cheryl had the perfect marriage: intimacy, love and affection. Unfortunately the romance was only skin-deep. Jeff and Cheryl show that it isn’t enough just to feel in love, you actually have to choose to be in love, and work on furthering your relationship with the person you’re with. If you don’t work on connecting with your partner, and don’t speak the same love language, eventually the frustration of emotional emptiness will relentlessly take its toll on your marriage.

For Cheryl her frustration led her to an affair and – as she saw no way back – a divorce. But despite her desire to get out of the marriage, she never felt at peace with the situation, and as she let God into her life, she discovers that her plans for her life were the exact opposite of God’s plans. Slowly she has to learn to trust in God with all her heart, and not lean on her own understanding, but submit completely and wilfully. It’s not easy to suddenly obey when you’ve been used to having your own way for so long, but Cheryl realizes that her selfishness never brought her anything good, and it’s time to do this God’s way.

Seven years later, Jeff and Cheryl once again stood at the altar, repeating their I Dos.

I Do Again goes right to the heart of the matter: God’s place in a marriage. Amazingly enough, hardly any time is spent on what Cheryl did to Jeff and what Jeff did to Cheryl that eventually led to their divorce – because it’s not relevant. What is relevant is what both of them failed to do the first time around, and so completely embraced the second time around – making God an integral part of their marriage, realizing that it’s not about them, but about Him.

Cheryl and Jeff Scruggs show that it’s possible for a marriage to survive a crisis if God is allowed in. They’re a living example of how God’s miracles affect a relationship, and remind us that it’s never too late to ask God be part of our marriage.

Armchair Interviews says: An amazing book!